Hanging out...

Last night, I hung out with one of my really good friends and some of her friends.  Thought the course of the night, we all had various conversations went from one place to the next and just enjoyed conversation and the people around us.  To me, that's what hanging out should be about; not about exclusion/using people.

In life, we spend too much time focusing on the wrong things.  Life is too short fake relationships; if you don't want to spend time with me then don't.  Jamie and I have a great time together and very seldom NEED to spend time with others.  While we enjoy hanging out with others, we can't continue putting more into our relationships than others are willing to give.

So, as a part of the things that I learned, here's one

People are who they are no matter what you do or say, if you don't like them or to be around them, don't.  You aren't helping the relationship by forcing something that doesn't exist.

Reality - Progress - Next Steps

So, one of my co-workers asked me if I realized that I was one step away from being a Director my response, "Sometimes I do, but most of the time I think that I have a long ways to go."  After she and I finished talking, I started to think about my statement.  See my statement was based on where I think I am right now in my career, my statement was based on the thoughts (or perceptions) that I think others have on my career progression.  

 

Why does it matter?  I honestly have no idea.  I think that it is natural for us to get caught up in that "everybody else" complex but that doesn't help us grow as individuals.  In fact, imitating or trying to impress others only helps to perpetuate low confidence and self-esteem.

I have worked very hard to ensure that I understand expectations, build and manage strong teams, and meet objectives as set before me.  I have created bonds that others never saw and implemented processes and strategies that no one else had the ability to strength to even try.  So, you are damn right I am one step away from being a Director, I should have been a Sr. Manager at least a year ago.  But, I am not complaining about that because following my own path, there is no doubt that I earned my promotion and title and am well on my way to the next one. 

Nevertheless, I am preparing everyday for the path that has been chosen for me and I will continue to knock down barriers as I travel it.