Aimless Deliberation

For those of you that don’t know, some of my posts here are specifically requested by someone else.   That being said, this post and the next were to have specific topics.   However, I have to deviate for a moment to talk about helping others.   Side Note for my brother-in-law - This post may be lengthy but let me have just a few more minutes of your time and read it anyway. J Now back to the post… In a couple of my earlier posts, I provided insight into who I am and my thoughts on my life.   For this post, I would like to talk about why that is important to me.   Hopefully, I can wrap it back around to the title of this post.   Regardless of our desire to “stay out of other people’s business”, we are in it every time we open ours mouths to discuss someone else.   In these conversations, I always try to be fair in my commentary and consider the person at hand (this piece requires me knowing that person).   I try to avoid negativity ...

As you can see, I am not going to be able to post my updates to my journal everyday.   1) You guys are going to get tired of me (because you just don't want to know me that well).   2) I don't know that I will have meaningful posts everyday (and I don't know that I am ready to share that much at this point) Nevertheless, today's question was this:  Today was tough because...   Today was tough because I can't understand why some people seem to be incapable of giving others time and space to cope, deal, just to themselves to asses their situations.   I know, I know, so let me explain.  My friend and co-worker lost her younger brother last night (totally unexpected).  She sent a note to us to let us know.  First thing this morning, people (really one person in particular) are standing in my office asking "Have you talked to her?", "Do you have the arrangements?", "Do you have her address?".  Then, the person runs off and tells ...

January 2 Question: Can people change? Considering that both Jamie and I have changed and that I spend 80% of my time at work developing people, my answer is yes, people can change.  I know that many people will not agree with my answer but oh well.   Things to note about my answer in order for it to happen, people have to: Believe change is needed Want to change Work at change Accept setbacks Understand feedback Things that should be considered when thinking about change are that it will not happen overnight and support is required.  Those two things seem to be the hardest thing about change in general. I am trying to make my posts a little shorter because I got feedback that some of them are too long.  I apologize in advance for the length but I wanted to share one of the poems that I wrote for Jamie a while ago. He... is the pitter-patter of feet on my heart ... the laughter ringing in my ears He is the joy glittering in my eyes He... i...

I purchased a 5-year journal a long while ago for a young person in my life was never able to gift it.  Nevertheless, the journal is a "Q&A" journal that asks a different question every day.  I am hoping this works out well and will let you know how it is going as often as I can First questions for the first day of the year:  What is your mission? At first, I thought this was a very difficult question.  After thinking through all the things that I have dealt with in my life, I realized it wasn't as difficult to answer as I was making it. My mission is simple.  My mission/ambition is to enjoy a fulfilled life with my husband (the strongest family I have).  So, there it is people, it seems easy enough, doesn't it?  Several situations/challenges come along with that ambition but having it at the forefront of my mind helps me to stay focused.  Diversions and missteps are not able to cause serious delays in my journey. I am thinking...

So, I finally read the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy and I must say that I really enjoyed it; so much so, that I read a few other BDSM (look it up) books.  The first thing I must say about these books is that they are not at all what I expected.  The books are truly love stories with a bit of sex in them (who wouldn't like that?).  Seriously, when I heard women discuss these books, it was always as though it was something taboo or sinister about them.  I have listened to women talk about how they couldn't read those types of books because they were married or it was "ungodly", really?  This is what I will tell you: If you are not comfortable in your own sexuality and desires, DON'T READ THESE BOOKS!   These books are written to emphasize power and ultimate pleasure.  The funny thing is that most will assume that it is power and pleasure from the man's perspective and it isn't.  In these books, the men fully understand the woman...

I know it has been a very long time since I posted.  So, I thought I would write a quick note.  When I write, I am just sharing my own personal thoughts and perspective.  I am in no way trying to assert myself as the authority on any topic (outside of those posts about me - I do consider myself an authority there). The things at the forefront of my mind these days has been happiness; mainly because of some very important people that have had a positive impact on my life.  Now, these people don't even know what their happiness means to me but I do keep them in my thoughts because I care and I want them to be happy regardless of where that leads.  For those people, I write this post. Happiness is a state of mind that we have full control over.  It is on us to determine if we want to be happy or not.  Being happy involves being a little selfish; I am not talking about the selfishness that drive people to take advantage of those that are trying t...

My post this month was very late, so I plan to get them out quicker next month. We made it back safely yesterday and vacation was great.   We stood at the top of Cadillac Mountain; visited the Boston Gardens; saw the lighthouses of Portland; and spent some well-deserved alone time with one another (all pictures will be available on Google+ shortly).   Even though, it is always hard to come home, I am very grateful for the excursions we are able to enjoy.   To four extraordinary ladies in my life, Kenya, Shalonda, Jennifer and Dani I want to say THANK YOU!   Thank you for being the friends that you are to me.    Regardless of how often we talk or see one another; you are always supportive and actually take the time to find out about me.   That means more to me than you will ever know.   In one of my earlier posts, I mentioned that friends are special to me because they are the people that choose to love you.   You have chosen ...