Hanging out...

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Last night, I hung out with one of my really good friends and some of her friends.  Thought the course of the night, we all had various conversations went from one place to the next and just enjoyed conversation and the people around us.  To me, that's what hanging out should be about; not about exclusion/using people.

In life, we spend too much time focusing on the wrong things.  Life is too short fake relationships; if you don't want to spend time with me then don't.  Jamie and I have a great time together and very seldom NEED to spend time with others.  While we enjoy hanging out with others, we can't continue putting more into our relationships than others are willing to give.

So, as a part of the things that I learned, here's one

People are who they are no matter what you do or say, if you don't like them or to be around them, don't.  You aren't helping the relationship by forcing something that doesn't exist.

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