I got nothing

I wake up every morning with the goal of doing my best; smiling regardless; not letting anyone divert me from my goals.  Well, today, it just DID NOT work.  I am tired of people, fake, jealous, angry, spiteful, uncaring, rude, ALL of them.  

I honestly have nothing today.  My husband gave me some advice this weekend about certain situations and people; I am going to try my best to take heed.  

Quote of the Day

"Sometimes those who don't socialize much aren't actually antisocial, they just have no tolerance for drama and fake people." -Quotes 'nThoughts, pineterst.com/quotedthoughts

Choose to Live!!!

This idea of “missing out” really confounds me.  You see, no one life is perfect for everyone.  Meaning:  my life is perfect for me, that celebrity’s life is perfect for him/her, and your life is perfect for YOU.  The beauty of living life is that each of us gets to decide how to live it.  Note that I said living life.  The key to “living” is doing what you, the individual, want.  If you are “missing out” or feel like you have “missed out”, it’s because you aren’t living YOUR life.  You are spending too much time wondering what someone else is or is not doing.  The time you spend doing this is the same time you LOSE living your own life. 

Stop wasting your life! Don’t be the person wishing you had treasured the things you had when everything is lost.

You get two quotes today.

Quotes of the Day

“We tend to forget that HAPPINESS doesn’t come as a result of getting something we DON’T HAVE, but RATHER  of recognizing & APPRECIATING what we DO HAVE” – Frederick Koenig

"Do not SPOIL what you have by desiring what you HAVE NOT; but REMEMBER that what you NOW HAVE was once among the things you ONLY HOPED FOR."  -Unknown

My Favorite Color

It’s weird how some things come about in life.  I was struggling with what I should write about today since I have missed the mark the last couple of days.  In mentioning it to my husband and he said, “Write about your favorite color”.  Little did he know, this was the perfect topic for me to write about today.  I wanted something less angry and less serious.

I previously mentioned that I went through a coaching program at work.  During this program, I had to consider varying aspects of my life.  In doing so, I went through an exercise that would help me calm myself (rather refocus my attentions) throughout various situations.   In one of the exercise, I had to tell my favorite color and explain why it was.  If you don’t know, my favorite color is PURPLE.  I could tell you that it is my favorite because it looks good on me; while that isn’t a lie that is not the reason.  The reason PURPLE is my favorite is because it brings me peace.

I don’t know how many times you truly watch the sunset but I have watched a few in my lifetime.  If you are truly watching the sun go down, there are times when you get to witness a point just before the sun disappears where there is this PURPLE haze all across the sky.  In that moment, it is the most peaceful time.  When I am watching this occur, thoughts of the stresses of life do not exist.  There is only that moment, the enjoyment of the relaxation and, more often than not, the time with my other half.

So now, whenever you see me, I will undoubtedly have something PURPLE on me.  It may be my favorite type of ink pen, my mouse, my folder carrying important information, the makeup case in my bag.  Why?  I do it because I am trying to keep PEACE at the forefront of my days.  

Quote of the Day
"She is at a place in her life where peace is her priority and negativity cannot exist." -Word Porn

I apologize because I led you astray…

Last week, I wrote a post stating that “I could say that I know that Jamie loves me but really all I have is a belief and a feeling.”  I want to explain this a little further because I think I may have caused some confusion.  The belief and the feeling that I have IS the love.  I know to depths in my soul very seldom touched that Jamie’s approach to our relationship, our love, and our marriage is based on the feelings that he has for me and the hopes for our future. 

The thing that I can’t tell you is if your partner/boyfriend/lover/husband feels that for you.  As I stated in the aforementioned post, no love is the same.  If you want me to tell you what’s going on in your relationship, my guess is, you already know.  No one knows your situation better than you, always remember that.

Love is not one thing alone but in it, you find endless amounts friendship, admiration, respect, tolerance, acceptance and physical chemistry.

Inferior, what?

Question of the day
Why do we insist on paying money for inferior services?  Great question, let's explore.  First, who defines superior and inferior?  How is the rating determined?  If I compare my service to previous services and its better, what will I assume?

While I agree that we should pay people/companies who serve us well and stop paying those who provide unacceptable services, I do feel that that determination should be left to the individual.  My thinking is that inferior versus superior is based on personal experience.  I don't go in the store and by a brand because EVERYONE ELSE says that it is great.  I typically go in and buy the brand that I have experienced.  Jane Smith up the street may hate it but it has always worked great for me.  Is that me choosing to pay for inferior services or me deciding to go with a brand that I know.

When getting into defining superiority and inferiority, always consider that it is your perspective and that may not be consistent with others.  Each person has their own views, I can guarantee they are not the same.

Quote of the day
"Comparisons make you feel superior or inferior, neither serve a useful purpose"  - Jane Travis

Not much

I was under the impression that if I posted every day I would run out of things to discuss, that hasn't been the case so far.  While I struggle with how I want to present my thoughts, I have yet to run out of things to talk about.  However, this post is random because I can't get myself to focus on one thing tonight.  I wish that this blog were a little more interactive, meaning I wish my readers would offer some of their thoughts on some of my topics or provide topics to discuss.  Open discussions are very helpful to me and my writings.  Hopefully, as I get more readers, increased interaction will occur.

I spent some time today trying to determine the best weekend trips.  I found a couple places to which we hadn't ventured.  I am hoping to get them on the calendar so we know when and what to expect for the upcoming year.

Today was a busy day and I didn't exercise like I planned to, so that means tomorrow will be absolutely FUN!!!

How do you know?

There is a question that routinely comes up related to relationships... how do you know if he/she really love you?  Some people expect or assume that since Jamie and I have been married for so long, I should definitely be able to answer that question.  Truth is, I can't.  I could say that I know that Jamie loves me but really all I have is a belief and a feeling.  Yes, we tell each other that we love each other and do things for each other that we probably would not do for others; is that love?  I know that he is who I want next to me when I wake up in the morning and pray that is how he feels as well.  Some would say that because he does, that's love.  But, it could be a sense of obligation.  When I hang out with Jamie, there is warmth, relaxation, laughter; everything that my heart tells me is love.  The point is I know how I feel.  Does he feel the same?  I guess I will have to ask.

On some level, you never truly know if you have a love that will last forever; all you know is what you have today.  If it makes you happy, then you work hard to keep.  Love is a tricky thing that is almost never replicated exactly.  Personally, I would be weary of someone who can give me exact details of determining if someone else loves me.

“Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person’s ultimate good as far as it can be obtained.” ―C.S. Lewis

Be mindful

Every now and again, reality hits us when we least expect it.  The problem is we do not always learn the intended lesson.  I am definitely guilty of missing the intended messages or lessons.  So, what I decided to work on for myself is simply listening and thinking.  I will recount the happening (with notebook paper if needed).  This behavior allows me to slow down and pay more attention, which in turn helps me to provide responses that are well-thought and more measured.  The hope is that, in the end, the stress and doubt that I carry is lessened tremendously.  

Point is, pay attention to those things that are most important to you.  Eventually, the worth of it comes to the forefront.

Quote of the Day

"Don't underestimate me.  I know more that I say, think more than I speak, & notice more than you realize."

Have to post twice today

Since I missed a post yesterday, I will have to post twice today.  I will share why I missed posting yesterday, it was because I was sleeping for the better part of the day.  I didn't go to sleep at all Saturday, which meant that Sunday was a lot of down time.  Yay me!!!  I am off work today so it shouldn't be a problem.

Anyway, I am trying to post everyday as a part of our Health Habits program at work.  I need to journal (post) everyday to allow my mind to settle/relax prior to going to bed.  So, I figured I like to write why not give it go using my blogspot.

Happy Monday readers!!!

How old am I?

I woke up to very sweet texts from my sisters; I truly love those women.

A really good friend was in Memphis and came by to hang out with me.  Now, she made me get up and out of the house too damn early, but I love her anyway.  She and I have been friends for close to 20 years. Our friendship had its tests but is still strong.  It is always great reconnecting and catching up.  Sometimes, playing around in target then giggling like silly school girls provides a calm resolve you didn't realize you needed.

"Choose your friends wisely; they will make or break you."   -J. Willard Marriott

Yes, I am trying this again!

I changed the layout and theme of my blog quite a bit.  I changed it, partly, because I needed a change but there were many inaccessible attributes to my readers.  I wanted to create a site that was virtually appealing and user-friendly.  Let me know if I missed the mark.

I committed to journaling before bed every day.  The first time I tried this, I was unsuccessful.  However, there are no quitters here, so I refuse to stop trying.  I want to journal here every day.  So, what stopped me from writing every day?  I believe it was thinking every post required some deep, enlightening thought.  The intent of this website was to journal.  Here we go!

Today was a vacation day for me.  As always, I still found a way to work.  I did a video call with my baby sister and youngest niece, received a visit from my oldest sister and nephew out of the blue, then hung out with my husband for a little while on the patio.  At some point, we found ourselves discussing a topic on which we were not in agreement.  While that part was less exciting, we do not typically hold on too long to disagreements.  Overall, today was a great day and I truly hope yours was too!

Quote/Thought of the Day
"Give the gift of absence to those who do not appreciate your presence."